BOOKS, ARTICLES AND VIDEOS
Anxiety: My friend sent me this talk on anxiety in kids which can be applied to adults as well. It is worth the time to watch this.
Center for Non-Violent Communication: I’ve always been a huge fan of the Center for Non-Violent Communication. They have an abundance of great resources which I refer back to frequently. Here is a 10-Steps to Peace resource that I think you may enjoy. I especially like these few: Spend some time each day quietly reflecting on how we would like to relate to ourselves and others. Remember that all human beings have the same needs. Before agreeing or disagreeing with anyone’s opinions, try to tune in to what the person is feeling and needing.
Core Values: If you contemplate or write about your values, it transforms how you think about stressful experiences and your ability to cope with them. When you are connected to your values, you’re more likely to believe that you can improve the situation through effort and the support and others. Research shows that you see yourself as strong and able to grow from adversity. You become more likely to approach challenges than to avoid them. And you are better able to see the meaning in difficult situations. What happens if you orient your life to the values that are important to you?
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown: This author was first recognized for her TED talk on human vulnerability. If you have not seen it, I highly recommend it (click to watch). There is one quote from this book which I especially love: “The third thing I learned has turned into a mandate by which I live: If you are not in the arena getting your ass kicked on occasion, I’m not interested in or open to your feedback. There are a million cheap seats in the world today filled with people who will never be brave with their lives but who will spend every ounce of energy they have hurling advice and judgement at those who dare greatly. Their only contributions are criticism, cynicism, and fear mongering. If you’re criticizing from a place where you’re not also putting yourself on the line, I’m not interested in what you have to say.”
Depression as a Loss of Heart: One of my favorite articles about depression is by John Welwood. I often go back to this one.
The Disease of Being Busy is an article written my one of my favorite columnists on Onbeing.org. “What happened to a world in which we can sit with the people we love so much and have slow conversations about the state of our heart and soul, conversations that slowly unfold, conversations with pregnant pauses and silences that we are in no rush to fill?”
Feelings: This is a quick watch about the value of working with difficult emotions rather than always bypassing them.
The Five People You Meet In Heaven: This past fall I read this beautiful book, and, just last week, watched the two-part movie on Hallmark Movies. It was so good. It made me think about the people we come into contact with and the unknown ways that each of our lives makes a difference.
Friendship: I have the blessings of a few dear friends who love me unconditionally and send me notes, quotes and songs that go right to the heart. I call these special friends “Spiritual Sisters.” I received these two the other day. You HAVE to listen in order though. You’ll see why. Pick me up 1 and Pick me up 2. I sent this one back to her… Pick me up 3.
Gift from the Sea: I remember reading this book when my son was in preschool. I rarely reread books from start to finish, but for some reason I picked this book up again and am so glad that I did. This is one of my favorite quotes, “Traditionally we are taught, and instinctively we long, to give where it is needed-and immediately. Eternally, woman spills herself away in driblets to the thirsty, seldom being allowed the time, the quiet, the peace, to let the pitcher fill up to the brim.”
Insight from Terminally Ill Kids: I actually created a Twitter account just to be able to read the accounts of what terminally kids with cancer find joy in. We can all learn a lot about what’s really important.
Menopause and Yoga: Read this recent article about the benefits of yoga during menopause.
Michelle Obama Karaoke Carpooling: I love when women have fun. I love when women dance and sing. I love when women can just be themselves despite who they are supposed to be. I laughed so hard watching this. Regardless of how you may feel about Michelle Obama, it was a delight to see her being herself and letting her energy shine.
Mystery Man Inspiration: I truly enjoy feel-good inspirational stories like this one about an act of holiday kindness.
The Nightingale by Kristin Hannah: I read this book a few summers ago, and, to this day, I still think about the characters. It is a long read, but once you get started it’s hard to put it down.
Oil Massage: I rely on self-massage in the fall, winter and spring months. It is known as Abhyanga in Ayurveda. I highly recommend incorporating this massage into your weekly routines. It will warm, ground and nourish you. I use sesame oil in the colder months and coconut oil in the warmer weather. Sometimes I don’t have time to heat up the oil so I do the massage at room temperature instead.
Parenting: A great article about what it feels like not to belong and feel rejected by other parents. Seems like it’s not uncommon.
Parenting Middle Schoolers: If you have a child in middle school you may relate to this article. New research shows that moms feel most stressed about parenting when their children are in middle school.
Pema Chodron: I love any books by Pema Chodron. She is a Buddhist nun and talks about the human condition and all of the complexities in the context of meditation. Her language is simple, practical and relatable.
Tattoos on the Heart is one of my favorite books and definitely worth the read.
Upside of Stress: This book really helped me to rethink the way that I feel about stress and anxiety. There were many profound insights. One that I especially resonated with me is, “People with meaningful lives worry more and have more stress then people with less meaningful lives. Why are they linked? One reason is that stress seems to be an inevitable consequence of engaging roles and pursuing goals that feed our sense of purpose. . . Rather then stress being a sign that something is wrong with your life, feeling stressed can be a barometer for how engaged you are in activities and relationships that are personally meaningful.” You can also listen to her TED talk here.
Wisdom of Menopause: I have recently learned that my body is in the beginning stages of perimenopause. I’ve started researching what happens and how to best support myself. What I’ve come to appreciate more then anything is how women can look to this period as a sacred time of change, growth and healing.
Won’t You Be My Neighbor: I watched this movie last weekend and was not only moved by Mr. Rogers and his dedication to children; but also to the importance of feelings and talking about difficult life situations. If you haven’t seen the documentary, I’d recommend it.